How American dating is broken, and what Christians can do to fix it

Hookup culture is straight up breaking people, so says this study. People are sick of it, but it’s the status quo, so they just kind of roll with it.

It just happens that they “roll with it” in the hay.

In fact, in an over sexualized society, those of the “hookup era” are actually having less sex than their predecessors. At the same time, people are waiting longer to get married, largely because they want to “live a little” before they get “tied down.”

This is garbage.

And Christians can fix the whole dating/hookup scene.

By kissing dating good… That didn’t work either.

First off, Christians have to stop playing their own hookup games. Whether its actual sex or “just making out,” we have to set the example. No hookups. Ever.

That leads to the fact that Christians must be transparent in their intentions. If I hear one more person tell me about how they’re “just talking” to someone they’re clearly into, I may punch that person in the face (Online daters, you have an exception clause here. You kind of have to make sure they’re not a creeper.). Especially to the dudes, be upfront about things (And never ask anyone out via a text based method. EVER.).

Dating should also be to see if someone is an adequate candidate for marriage. If you’re not ready to find out who you’re going to marry, you shouldn’t date. You’ll only screw over yourself and the other person emotionally.

I’ll also take this opportunity to tell anyone that thinks that “dating” is bad and that it should always be courting to shut up. They’re the same thing, but the uptight Christians feel better about the medieval term so they can make sure their kids aren’t making babies yet.

Here’s probably the biggest thing for Christians in attempting to abolish the hookup game and rectify the dating scene. Don’t date a nonbeliever. Ever. Missionary dating is a surefire way to break a heart, turn someone off to the Gospel and/or compromise your own standards and morals. I’ve literally never seen it work out in the long run.

And one more thing needs to be addressed here. If your significant other is dragging you into sin, particularly of a sexual nature, here are your options.

1) Repent, which should happen anyway. This actually isn’t an option. You may be able to henceforth restrain yourselves, but if you can’t…

Then it may be time for a chastity belt.

That should lead to one of the next two.

2) Get married. “But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:9). This may mean you get married earlier than you intended, or it may even look weird to your friends and family, but it’ll at least help you dig out of a whole bunch of crap you shouldn’t be doing.

3) Dump him/her immediately. Cut and run. Seriously. “And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into the hell of fire” (Matthew 5:29). It’s also better to go to heaven single and without a girlfriend than to go to hell with one. She may be hot, but so is hell.

That’s not specifically to scare you, but it’s to illustrate that this, as is every aspect of the Christian’s life, is to be taken seriously. If this area, which is a pretty large part of life, doesn’t look any different in our lives from everybody else’s, then the rest of our lives probably don’t look much different either.

Which is why it’s up to us to fix the dating culture.

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